Jakarta, TOPNews Indonesia –
‘Welcome back Mas Boy!’
Andry Kurniawan alias Boy’s return to the world of art inevitably shocked his fellow artists. The moment of the painting exhibition entitled ‘The Sweet Beat’ in early January seemed to be a thanksgiving for the return of the ‘prodigal son’.
There was a sense of relief and happiness at the same time as the warm, positive reception.
“Six seven years ago they asked ‘Piye your art?‘(What about the rest of your work?), At that time I just answered’I wished to meet capitalists, financiers‘, “said Boy when talking with TOPNewsIndonesia.com by telephone, Friday (26/2).
At that time Boy left the art world to do the inn business. The circle of friends or community changes. Life is not boring thanks to meeting people from various regions as well as countries. He has ever met any tourist model. Quiet? Maybe it’s not in the dictionary.
While doing business, there were several opportunities to bring Boy together with fellow artists. Ironically, he actually feels foreign to the world he has struggled with and shaped so far. It seems that there is a ‘price’ to pay when he focuses on pursuing business.
“I feel very foreign to crowd (environment) the arts. I came to the exhibition, entered, had a look, then slowly folded. Whereas friends themselves, know everyone, “he said.
“Dramatic period. This is my world. It feels like the art scene is weird. What are you talking about? How advanced are you?”
‘Escape’ with cell phones
Like Boy, a moment of isolation and loneliness was experienced by Putri Puspitasari, a private employee. Around the end of 2016, changing departments made him meet new people. This condition also requires him to adapt both to new duties and responsibilities as well as to colleagues.
Putri admits that she is afraid of being rejected, afraid of making mistakes when interacting, afraid of not being suitable and a myriad of other feelings that make her insecure (not safe).
“So if you get together with work colleagues, you get together (sort of) to be your reflection, going everywhere, laughing, laughing but on the surface. Not the ones who really enjoy their time with them,” said Putri via text message, Thursday. (25/2).
Not infrequently he chooses to open his cellphone either to access social media or play games. Otherwise, he was quite quiet and paid attention to those who were chatting. Putri also prefers to go home to a boarding house instead of continuing to hang out in a different location.
This condition ‘only’ lasted a year. The sense of ‘insecure’ is still there but not as great as before. Slowly, the Princess made peace with the situation.
“Not starting negative thinking to other people about their assessment of me, then they can find a suitable work rhythm, then begin to understand, oh if this has to be like this, that person wants that, “he added.
“Now it is starting to feel comfortable, even because I happen to find people who support them too. There are some friends who can be used as ‘forks’ (poles) to lean on, which are not very common.”
Meanwhile, clinical psychologist Roslina Verauli said moments of loneliness, isolation in a crowd are very possible.
It is necessary to distinguish between alone or alone and lonely or lonely. Loneliness is not always related to the physical condition that a person is alone.
“If lonely it’s a subjective appreciation that we feel lonely, alone. Lonely people are not always lonely, but people who are in a crowd can be lonely because of subjective appreciation, “said the psychologist who is often called Vera.
Meanwhile, clinical psychologist Rena Masri argues that loneliness in the middle of a crowd needs to be seen on a case by case basis. It is necessary to find out the reasons for loneliness in a crowd, for example, someone may feel stressed, sad, depressed, have a lot of thoughts.
“Even though you are in a crowd, you can’t enjoy it. For example, there are many problems so you can’t feel happiness, comfort with friends,” he said.