Jakarta, TOPNews Indonesia —
Since yesterday, the virtual world has been enlivened by a Twitter user’s confession of sexual harassment what he experienced. The harassment was allegedly carried out by the emcee Gofar Hilman.
Netizens’ responses were varied. There are those who provide support, but not a few who actually sneer.
What the Twitter user did about the sexual harassment experienced was included in the category of ‘speak up‘. In the realm of sexual harassment, ‘speak up‘ means daring to speak out loud about the dark events that have happened to him.
Psychologically, speak up It can also be a form of the victim’s trauma recovery process.
Clinical psychologist Veronica Adesla says it takes a lot of courage for survivors of sexual abuse or violence to want to speak up.
“When survivors dare to speak up, generally they have gone through the recovery process. Even though they are not 100 percent, they are big enough, so they dare to tell stories,” Veronica said to TOPNewsIndonesia.com by telephone, Thursday (10/6).
“What’s with the story [speak up] is this also part of the recovery process? Yes, this includes the recovery process,” added Veronica.
According to him, survivors of sexual harassment who can speak up means it is already in a number of phases. First, the victim has accepted the abuse she experienced. Second, victims are willing to share with others, and have good hopes or intentions to prevent similar incidents from happening again.
The second point, continued Veronica, is no longer for the survivors themselves, but also for the wider community. “In the sense of what can be a contribution [saya] to the outside community. No longer trapped in the trauma,” he added.
Illustration. When you dare speak up, a victim usually has gone through various recovery processes. (Milada Vigerova)
Not ‘Speak Up’ Go along
However, Veronica continued, that doesn’t mean speak up should be carried out simultaneously among victims of sexual harassment. This has often happened lately, where a confession made by one victim was followed by another victim who was finally compelled to speak.
Instead, continued Veronica, the victim must first focus on recovering the trauma of the incident that happened to her. That is, speak up cannot be done for reasons of ‘follow-up’, but must be done based on the process that has been passed.
“speak up fine, but you don’t have to. Process first. Survivors definitely have traumas that must be resolved with the help of psychologists, counselors,” Veronica said.
After several stages have been passed, make sure you are ready to accept all the consequences of the chosen steps. Opening a story, especially on social media, means that you have to be prepared for various netizen responses. If you are not ready and force yourself to ‘speak up’, Veronica is worried that it will trigger a second trauma.
“If you are not ready, there will be a second trauma bomb. It is possible that there will be a negative response, asking questions, saying ‘That’s just the way it is’. If you are not ready, it will make the situation worse, the survivors will fall [down]. It is very important to have a discussion with a psychologist or counselor [untuk melihat kesiapan penyintas],” he added.